‘What can counselling help with?’
I work with clients through a range of issues including:
- Generalised Anxiety Disorder
- Social Anxiety
- Historic child sexual abuse
- Sexual violence
- Domestic violence and abuse
- Chronic pain
- Relationship difficulties
- Self esteem/confidence
- Weight worries
- Anger management
The above list is not exhaustive.
Some clients attend counselling for a more general feeling of lack of fulfillment rather than knowing the actual cause and this is completely reasonable.
Not all clients have a one-off event they are trying to deal with although, of course, some may have (bereavement, victim of assault etc).
You don’t need to know the reason yourself – knowing that you want to make a change is a good enough starting point.
‘How does counselling work?’
Being able to talk in confidence and free of judgement to a professional counsellor is very different to talking to family and friends.
If you have talked to family/friends already, you may have found that they usually cannot help but try to advise you even before you have finished what you were talking about. Whilst they may care for you dearly, you may have found yourself regretting telling them something as it resulted in you feeling judged or that you disappointed them or even made them angry.
Maybe you haven’t spoken to anyone yet as you just don’t know where to start. Talking with a counsellor can offer you a new perspective on your situation.
We can approach your counselling in a variety of ways – through a combination of conversations and by completing exercises or activities in the session or after the session at home in your own time if you prefer.
Many things can affect the way we think, feel or behave. As an Integrative counsellor, we can explore your life from now right back to your childhood years to see if there are any events or feelings which have gone unprocessed throughout the years.
In addition to this we can adopt a more “present” approach and look at any current behaviours you may wish to change and explore coping strategies to manage those behaviours and feelings more effectively.
‘How do I know if I need counselling?’
The decision to see a private counsellor is a very personal one.
You may have been recommended to do this by another Health Professional such as your GP or someone you know may be encouraging you to do so. I would just say that if you find yourself thinking or saying something like – “I don’t know what’s wrong with me – I just feel I need something to change” then it can be useful to try counselling as a way of exploring these thoughts. If after the first session you do not feel the time is right or you do not feel the process is the right one for you, there is no obligation for you to book any further appointments.
‘When will I start to feel better?’
You may feel an initial sense of relief after the first session and more positive about the future.
However, because counselling can involve you talking about painful memories or experiences or talking about things you have been trying to avoid this can result in you experiencing emotions during a session as you allow yourself to express feelings you may previously have been suppressing (as a way of protecting yourself). Maybe you did not realise certain thoughts and feelings were there – your subconscious mind does its best for you but its “program” is based on your experiences and self concept and is not able to process or adapt by itself.
Counselling helps to activate the conscious thinking part of the brain which is the first step to potentially making changes.
The aim of counselling is NOT to re-traumatise you or to make you re-live painful experiences. Its aim is to work at a pace that’s comfortable for you to enable you to understand your feelings and what makes you feel positive, anxious or depressed.
‘How much will it cost?’
My fees are per “counselling hour” which is a 50-minute session.
For individuals, my fee is £40 per counselling hour.
For Couples and Family Counselling, my fees are £50 per counselling hour.